Adult Dating

You know who you are.  You are not kind to the world of adult dating.  I know, you’ve been hit on by the wrong guys for so long that you do not want give guys the time of day.  You know what though, the right guys can spot you a mile away.  We don’t talk to you because you will act like a bitch to us before we can even say hello.  You can’t spot us so well, but we are the guys that shoot you a look and roll our eyes with that look saying “puhleeze”.  You know, the look that you shoot at everyone.

You are so sold on your looks that all you do is bitch and complain about men.  You begin to play games with them to get things that you want.  You will always find the wrong type of guy.  It’s a creature of your own doing at this point.  You’ve stopped giving guys a chance to talk to you.  I don’t feel bad for you, and neither do the rest of the good guys.  You see, we give you the same treatment you’ve given us.  You’ve successfully made yourself unapproachable by the right guys.  That’s why you attract all of the wrong guys.  Think about it.

You have really put yourself in a bad spot here.  Now, all of the good guys are going to treat you as if they are bad guys because they do not trust you.  They know you have attitude.  And not in a good way.  So what’s a hot girl to do?  It depends.

First off, if you truly want to meet a good guy you have to make yourself approachable.  Yes, that means trying to have an actual normal conversation with an actual man.  Crazy idea, isn’t it.  You have to prove that you do not have a bad attitude in order to be taken seriously.  You actually have act nice and normal.  Oh yeah, and mature.  If you don’t know what that is, just look it up.  You can find it in a book called the dictionary.

Oh well, I know this post won’t change the world.  I know it may sound a little harsh, but this is how us good guys see it.  Don’t shoot the messenger (not that your opinion means anything to me).

Oh yeah, and please, please stay off the online line adult dating sites.  We do not want you there.  You are not welcome and we will harass you, lol.

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You’ve heard of DUI (driving under the influence), and now you are going to learn about CUI (chatting under the influence) and how it can ruin an online adult dating prospect.  Everyone likes to have fun now and then, but make sure your “fun having” does not disrupt your adult dating experience.

We’ve all heard of it, we all know of it and yet…we all still do it.  You’re with your friends and you decide to tie one on for the evening.  You and your friend part ways at the closing of the evening.  But you are just getting going now.  You couldn’t just leave it at a good night.  You quickly recollect that adult dating member you are anxious to talk to again.  Let’s send that adult dating member an email!  Better yet. let’s see if that adult dating member is online and up for a chat!

Ah ha!  You’re in luck!  That adult dating member IS online.  You initiate a chat.  The adult dating member accepts and you begin to type.  What makes sense in your mind is really nothing more than a streaming of babble akin to sour milk that is polluting the screen with your minutiae.  You think you are a king saying all of the right things to his people.  You are the greatest man alive.  If she does not like what you are saying, it must be the adult dating members fault for not realizing who you are.  You are the shit after all.

Well, it seemed like a good idea at the time.  But when you wake up the next day and the haze starts to lift after a few minutes, it hits you.  Oh shit, what the hell did I do last night?  Did I…no, I didn’t.  But you did.  And you know it.

You rush to the computer to see what you may have fired off in an email to that adult dating member.  As you begin to read, your jaw is dropping, widening with every line you read.  You quickly realize that you have not only made a complete ass of yourself, but you have unequivocally drove that one adult dating member away.  That one adult dating member that you were sure you could have really connected with and possibly have formed a meaningful adult relationship.  You slap your forehead…hard.

The moral of the above is simple.  You know you are not supposed to do it…so don’t!  Don’t let a little fun ruin your adult dating experiences.  Adult dating is difficult enough as it is, so don’t screw up your opportunities.  Learn from your mistakes and you will have a great and fruitful adult dating experience.

I just wanted to share an adult theory of mine concerning what I think are naturalistic adult dating cycles.  This theory mostly applies to areas or regions that experience climate changes for each season.

I’m sure you’ve all heard of spring fever.  It’s the time of year when the weather begins to warm up after a cold or cool winter.  This mostly applies to women.  The women are ready to bare their skin on the beach and go crazy outside and begin a cycle of adult dating that is one that is less monogamous or long term.  It’s the time for a more wild type of adult dating.  Maybe it’s not adult dating at all and just some good fun.  Nothing wrong with that.

Conversely, you have the fall.  This seems to be the time of year when people are ready to entertain longer term adult dating.  It’s nice to have and adult dating partner to cuddle up with on the couch.  If the weather is bad, you will not be oogling hot babes on the beach bearing their skin, so that aspect of starting new adult dating relationships is out.  And, with bad weather, it always seems better to share an evening at home with your adult dating partner so you do not have to freeze while standing in lines or battle bad driving conditions.  Of course, if you get lost and you don’t want to ask for directions and then the argument with your adult dating partner…but that’s another story.

By now you are wonder what the point is and how it applies to adult dating.  My point is that when you are in the adult dating world, you must keep all factors that will apply to adult dating in mind.  If you are looking for a long term adult dating partner, give some people a break if it falls in the spring time.  They may not be ready for such a long term adult dating commitment and may be more of the mind set of casual adult dating.  I really just mean that you should be aware of what others may have in mind at the time when it comes to their adult dating needs.  Don’t be let down.  Know what to expect.  Perhaps even have a little more flexibility and leeway when it comes to your own needs for adult dating.

Adult dating is very simple, but at the same time can be very complex.  A lot of factors make up what’s involved in adult dating because of the human factor.  We are all different.  Our adult dating needs are never truly exact.  This goes beyond the attraction, chemistry and spark.  I’m talking about a more fundamental aspect of adult dating.

In the end, I hope this adult dating article made sense to you.  Sometimes it can be difficult to express certain concepts in a clear and understandable way.  This certainly holds true with the concepts of adult dating.