Adult Dating

Can you really feel sparks from an online adult dating site? Surprisingly, I believe the answer is a resounding, YES!

I think one of the major arguments or apprehensions people have with adult dating sites is that they think that there is no “spark”.  Spark is that chemistry that people feel when they are around each other.  That unexplainable feeling one gets that makes your heart go pitter patter.  You often here people say that the first time they laid eyes on each other they felt a spark.  That their knees went weak.  That their heart skipped a beat.  In the end, I believe that this can be classified as nervous excitement.

From personal experience, I have had that nervous excitement when I’ve talked to people online.  I have had that feeling that I can’t wait to talk to that person again.  I’ve excitedly looked forward to talking with them.  I’ve also talked to them hours past what each of had decided would be time to stop conversation for the day and had no idea it was getting that late.  My mind has gone blank and has also come out with the absolute wrong things to say due in part to that giddiness you get when you are excited to be talking to someone.  You know what I mean.

Don’t let others that have never even tried an online adult dating site tell you that there is no chemistry to be had on an adult dating site.  Simply put, they are wrong.

I suggest you see for yourself.  Go to the Adult Dating section of this web site and find out for yourself.  After all, you never know until you try.

There is a significant correlation between online adult dating and the economic repercussions it can have on you.  Put simply, it can save you money.  And lots of it.

As of the writing of this post, the dollar is weak, and only getting weaker.  The markets are weakening as they go through their respective “corrections”.  The price of heating oil and fuel has been skyrocketing.  Foreclosures are on the rise and things are beginning to look a little bleak for the winter months.  What does this have to do with online adult dating?

It costs money to date.  Not only that, it costs money to meet.  And this is where I will start.  If you want to meet other singles, normally you would consider a bar or club the starting point for your adult dating endeavors.  As you already know, when you go to a bar, it is not an automatic truth that you will meet a potential dating partner every time you frequent your establishment of choice.  It may take several visits of patronizing such establishments before you ever even meet someone.  What do most people do at bars?  People consume.  People consume beverages, whether alcoholic or not, and eat food.  Well, this stuff costs money and it can add up very quickly.  One night at such an establishment can cost $30 to $50 for one person.  That’s a lot of dough to dish out for one night if your intent is to meet someone in the adult dating scene, let alone if you go out on Friday and Saturday night every weekend.  See where I’m going with this?

So you are spending all of this money to meet an interesting single.  What happens when you do meet a potential dating partner at such a place?  How conducive to forming an adult dating relationship is the establishment that you are at?  Are you able to speak naturally, without the need to yell?  Are you offered the ability to have a meaningful one on one conversation?  See Why I Hate The Bar Scene for more on this topic.

Let’s say that you do meet a potential dating partner after a few visits to these establishments.  By this time, you’ve already spent a good amount of money.  You’ve had a brief phone conversation or two and you decide to go on a date, because traditionally, this is how the progression of the traditional dating scene works.  You go on your date and it does not work out between you and what you thought may have been your new adult dating partner.  Guess what?  You just spent more money and now you are back to square one.  The entire process starts over.  Rinse and repeat.

Now, think about the alternative that is readily available to break this cycle and save you money.  For a little less than one night at the bar you could have joined an online adult dating site for one month.  You could have been corresponding to other singles with the same mindset as you and meeting potential dating partners every day of the week, not just a night or two on the weekend.

I hope you can see the amount of money that you can save by simply joining an online adult dating site.  Not only that, these sites are highly targeted places to meet people.  It’s a dating site, that’s why people are there.  They are not there to eat, they are there to meet like minded individuals.  Not only that, the channels available for correspondence are much more conducive than waiting until you go out to dinner and needlessly spend more money, only to find that you are not a good fit.

Although easily overlooked, online adult dating sites make sound economical sense.  If you are feeling the tightening of the financial grasp relating to the reasons I stated above, and many people are, appreciate the alternatives that are available today.  Besides, if you find the right partner and engage in a meaningful relationship, sharing a bed with someone will allow you to save more money by keeping the heat even lower during those cold winter nights!

Click here is a list of online adult dating sites that I recommend.

I don’t know if it’s Hollywood movies, tabloids, shitty television programming or simply the decay of society. All I know is that nine times out of ten, once people are in a bar, they are not normal. If by chance the behavior they exhibit while in the bar is normal for them, then I never want to see that person…ever.

A quick note on the guys. Trouble. I don’t care what age the guys are, most of them, by nights end, are looking for trouble. At least the ones that did not find a “hook up”, which happens to be 99% of them. If they didn’t come to the bar looking for trouble, they are certainly looking for it after dealing with bout after bout of rejection from the women. You know exactly what I mean. You could try to be friendly and give the short smile and the quick head nod when the alley is tight and you need to squeeze by each other, but that cordial gesture could ignite an incident. You, after having been polite, receive the typical “do you have a problem” response. At this point you simply shake your head in disbelief, however this reflex response only escalates the situation. The fellow now taps his buddy on the shoulder, they both look at you and proceed to walk towards you. You know the drill, it happens all the time.

On to the fun part…the women. Girly power.

I had no idea there were so many super models abound. At least, at the bars, all the women seem to think they are super models and us lowly men are lucky to even be in the same presence of these omnipotent beings. That’s right, all of a sudden these average women who are all primped out to the nines look at you as if you are a lowly peon that can offer the world nothing (unless of course you are totally loaded and she knows it). The attitude they now posses exudes through their skin. Wielding the look and emitting that vibe of “do not dare come over and try to talk to me. I will laugh in your face and mock you, little man.” It’s comical really, but still does you no good when you want to get some action for yourself.

You’re a nice guy, so when you do try to talk to them in a respectable manner, they do not even give you the courtesy of looking at you when something resembling a conversation ensues. Their eyes wander around the room. One hand holding their drink and the other holding the straw in the drink, rowing it in circles simply as a means to pass the time with a look of disdain from the boredom of the conversation at hand that she has heard 100 times already this evening. If she does not cut you off and tell you that she needs to go talk to her girlfriend, she will ask you to buy her a drink. You think, “woohoo!, I’m in! She wants me to buy her a drink so that must mean she is in to me.” Wrong. She just wants a free drink. As soon as you come back with her drink, now is the time she needs to talk to her girlfriend. You didn’t eve get her name, but she got a free drink. If for some reason she approaches you later in the evening, chances are she just needs another drink. She will smile and say something coy to you to get what she wants. After all, who doesn’t enjoy a free drink.

This will happen to you several times throughout the evening. By this time you feel like a sucker…because you are. Women have all the power in these situations. They flex their girly power like weight lifters in the Mr. Universe competition and there is nothing you can do about given the circumstances.

you the dancer

Most women like to dance. In fact, a lot of them have only gone to the place you are at ONLY to dance. It’s true. But you don’t know this. You think they are there for the same reason you are there, to pick someone up. You don’t dance. You look like a Proboscis monkey when you dance, but you figure, what the heck. If you want some, you need to at least try to dance. Of course, you crash and burn. How do you know you’ve failed? When the girl you come up on to dance with gives you that look. That roll her eyes, tilt her head to the ceiling look as she promptly turns away from you. Not only do you feel ridiculous, but you look it too. So, you may ask, what is the solution to end all of this misery?

Ah, the Internet. I will give you all of the information that you need, that you require, that you crave. I will tell you how to meet real people who are on the same page as you. No games. No attitude. Just real. I will tell you where these people can be found…in the next article.